A Mindful Guide to New Year’s Resolutions

An excerpt from A Mindful Approach to New Year’s Resolutions by Sarah Rudell Beach

I think our problem with resolutions is that they put us firmly in militaristic effort mode, obsessed with outcomes and notions of success and failure.

But the answer is not to flee to the other extreme, to abandon the practice of self-improvement altogether. It is to find that sweetspot between effort and patience: to identify areas for growth, summon the courage to transform our habits, and, most importantly, to do so with kindness and compassion for ourselves.

We should perhaps think in terms of intentions instead of resolutions. Intention comes from the Latin intendere, “to turn one’s attention,” and intentionem, “a stretching out.”

While resolutions are firm and hard, intentions are flexible. They’re about where we direct our attention. They’re about being mindful.

As we seek personal transformation in the year ahead, I offer you this mindful approach to New Year’s Resolutions and Intentions:


1. ​Consider Your Intentions

The most common resolutions are to lose weight, spend less money, and get organized. Those are all valuable and healthy practices. But why are they your intentions? Do you want to feel better about your body? Know that you won’t need to worry about money for retirement? Stop wasting time looking for all your things in the morning? Honoring the personal meaning behind an action helps us maintain our resolve.

2. ​Focus on Process, Not Results

Resolutions like “lose weight” and “get organized” are completely focused on a result, with no identification of a process for how to get there.

Studies show that when employees — from sales executives to Formula One pit crews — focus on process and style instead of sales numbers and speed, they actually perform better. Intensely focusing on results paradoxically makes us less likely to achieve them.

Instead of focusing on “losing 10 pounds,” try focusing on going for walks or eating healthy salads for lunch — you will probably end up losing some weight in the process. And you’ll probably enjoy the journey a lot more.

3. ​Change Your Habit Loop

Self-transformation begins with self-awareness. First turn your attention to the habits that you would like to change, and examine what sustains those habits. If you want to spend less money, for example, take some time observing how and when and why you spend money. Is it your morning habit to turn to your phone, check your email, and click on all those ON SALE NOW–ACT QUICK! impulse messages? If that remains your morning ritual, you’re going to have a hard time saving your money.

Charles Duhigg, in The Power of Habit, argues that the key to changing our behaviors is understanding the habit loop — the cues that trigger a particular action, and the rewards that lead us to continue to do it.

For example, I wrote this post a few years ago about my old morning habit loop that I wanted to change: instead of checking my email, coffee in hand, as soon as I woke up, which often left me grumpy, I made my coffee the “reward” for meditating in the morning instead. And after a while, meditating in the morning simply became routine. I looked forward to it, and noticed the benefits of a more dedicated practice. But I had to change my habits (i.e., ditch the early morning phone routine), not just resolve to “meditate more.”

So take a careful look at your not-so-skillful habits that are currently supporting the behaviors you want to change in the upcoming year. Duhigg writes, “Once you break a habit into its components, you can fiddle with the gears.” You can find the little tweaks to your routine that can support transformation.

And wouldn’t you know? The word “resolution” is derived from the Latin resolvere, which means “to reduce into simpler forms.” That’s where we should start.

4. Be Kind to Yourself

No matter what intentions we set for ourselves, there will be days and weeks when we don’t live up to our expectations. A fundamental lesson we learn through practicing mindfulness is that we are constantly beginning again — each day, each breath. We sit down to meditate, and we experience a brief moment of awareness. Then our mind starts chattering, planning dinner and worrying about the kids. And then with a deep breath, awareness rearises– and the mind is off again, wondering what’s up next in our Netflix queue.

When the mind wanders, we gently bring our attention back to the breath, without judging or berating ourselves. The moment we notice our mind has wandered is the moment of insight — noticing the action of the mind is the practice itself.

The same goes for resolutions. When we fall short, we can gently and non-judgmentally bring our awareness back to our intention. That’s really the purpose of setting resolutions — bringing a kind awareness to our behavior, recognizing when we’ve wandered, and beginning again. And again…

5. Consider Resolution Alternatives

If the pressure of New Year’s Resolutions is too much, consider a few alternative ways to set your intentions for the upcoming year:

  • Make a Vision Board: You can find lots of online instructions for making a vision board (like these ones here, which include users’ uploaded pictures of their boards). A vision board compiles images that represent what you want for yourself in the upcoming year. It’s a great way to have a visual reminder of your intentions (I have mine hanging in my office). The images of heart-shaped fruits, dancing yogis, and glowing candles gently remind me to eat healthy food, move my body, and make time for stillness.
  • Choose a Word of the Year: Many people have embraced the trend of choosing a word for the year — like breathe, trust, dance, fly — that encapsulates the feelings, attitudes, and behaviors they desire in the year ahead. This word can guide your choices and actions — instead of setting firm expectations for yourself, you can ask if a particular behavior aligns with your word and your intentions.


Ultimately, New Year’s Resolutions are about growth and improvement. They are about bringing health and joy and ease into our lives. With mindfulness we can bring awareness to our habits and hold ourselves with compassion and kindness as we seek meaningful transformation.

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A Mindful Approach to New Year’s Resolutions


 BY Sarah Rudell Beach


Beach, Sarah Rudell. “A Mindful Guide to New Year's Resolutions.” Left Brain Buddha, 13 Jan. 2020, leftbrainbuddha.com/mindful-approach-new-years-resolutions/.

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I resonated with this article because it is so easy to get caught up in the final destination that you forget to celebrate the accomplishments you make along the way. Setting small, obtainable goals can help you stay on track and feel good about the progress you are making, no matter what your resolution is. 

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